'Spiritual Direction is the contemplative practice
of helping another person or group
to awaken to the mystery called God in all life
and to respond to that discovery
in a growing relationship of freedom and commitment.'

A Spiritual Director (sometimes called a 'Soul Friend' or 'Spiritual Accompanier') is one who, through their particular gifts and training, has developed certain skills to help individuals explore a deeper relationship with themselves and that which lies beyond - the Other.

Whilst Spiritual Direction addresses the whole person it differs from psychotherapy or counselling in being the process of accompanying a person on their journey into wholeness and holiness as they seek to respond to the deepening call of God. However there are many similarities between spiritual direction and theraputic practices: spiritual direction offers a safe, welcoming and confidential space in which life stories can be explored; it is non-judgmental; it is not about telling people how to behave but how to listen and respond to the movements going on within them.

Spiritual Direction is an on-going relationship and time is needed to understand the movements occurring in the life of the Directee. A useful image from scripture might be the Journey to Emmaus when two disciples travelled together until the Lord revealed himself to them.  Further information (What is Spiritual Direction) is available here and more detailed notes of the ministry I offer, Notes for Enquiring Directees, can be found here.  Other Notes concerning how to prepare for a session of direction can be found here.

Enfolded in Christ - the inner life of a priesis a book I wrote for clergy which addresses spiritual direction and may be of use to both them and laypeople.

I am a member of the Community of Spiritual Directors and abide by their Code of Practice.  I see people either in my home in south-east London or at the London Spirituality Centre in the City. Whilst I make no set charge for this ministry I need to ask for a donation which, apart from being a source of income, covers matters such as ongoing training, Supervision and, where applicable, room hire. As a guide this might be equivalent to your hourly income or, if you are unemployed, I would be happy with whatever you felt you could afford. We would have an initial meeting to find out if we could work together and, if so, would normally meet every six to eight weeks (more frequently if required) for up to an hour. From time to time we would review our relationship for your benefit.

John-Francis Friendship

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